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A Chat With Tony Danza
by Lauren Beckham Falcone
He's been a professional boxer, an award-winning actor, dancer, singer, author, and TV talk-show host. But the latest role for TV's favorite hunky housekeeper, as grandfather, is his best yet
The 57-year-old Brooklyn native — who first won over TV audiences during his five-year run in the late 70s and early 80s as Tony Banta on the hit sitcom Taxi — has continued to shine on screen and on stage. This week, the star of Who's the Boss? kicked off a sold-out, two-week solo engagement at Feinstein's in New York City with the cabaret act "I Could Have Danced All Night."
And if that isn't enough, Danza's cookbook/memoir Don't Fill Up on the Antipasto (Scribner, 2008) coauthored with his son, Marc, hit bookshelves last month. Featuring family, fun, lots of food — and 2-year-old grandson Nicholas — the book is chock-full of recipes and real-life stories from Tony's Italian-American family dinners. There's even a recipe named for his grandson; "Pasta Nicky" is a tricky way for the 2-year-old to eat his peas and carrots.
Danza stopped singing and stirring the marinara long enough to dish on fatherhood, grandchildren, and how to make a great meal with a toddler.
Grandparents.com: Your son, Marc, announced you were going to be a grandfather on your talk show. The Tony Danza Show, in 2005. You were surprised, but so was your audience, considering you were in your mid 50s. Were you ready to be a grandfather?
| “I want to be the guy who takes my grandson fishing and the guy he wants to go fishing with.” |
Tony Danza: Oh, Marc and his wife had been married a long time and, you know, I didn't want to push or put any pressure on them. You know, I figured they'd get around to it and it's their life, and then you don't say anything because what if they were trying and having a problem? So I stayed out of it. But I was ready and thrilled. And now "Nicky Macaroni" — he’s such a joy.
GP: You were a young father and now a young grandfather. Did the former prepare you for the latter?
TD: I think being a young father was tougher on Marc than on me. We had to grow up together. And I have two daughters, one who just turned 21 and the other is 16. I’m proud of my girls and my son and my grandson.
GP: How is it different raising a son in the 70s from taking care of a grandson today?
TD: There are a lot more challenges for parents now. But it all goes back to showing them how to be a good person. Keep them close to you. And make dinner together.
GP: You and your son cowrote Don't Fill Up on the Antipasto, with your grandson, Nicholas, featured prominently throughout. Was it important for you to include him?
TD: What's great about having a kid at 19, which is when Marc was born, is that he got to know his grandmother and great-grandmother, who were vital and around. It's vital to be involved with your kids and your grandkids. Granted, my family was a lot bigger when Marc was growing up, but that's okay. It's all about being with family.
GP: Your book is all about family — what did your grandfathers mean to you? What kind of grandfather do you hope to be with Nicholas?
TD: My grandfather on my mother's side was a bounty hunter in Sicily. Crazy guy, he was. A big man, not tall, but husky. He was the patriarch, but he was so fun and smart and would give me quarters. I want to be the guy who takes my grandson fishing and the guy he wants to go fishing with. I won't tell them, I'll show them. I want to be a good example.
GP: You wanted to be a boxer, but now you're an actor and entertainer. Would you want Nicholas to follow in either career path?
TD: The only thing I would say is he has to finish school, be a college graduate. After that I would support anything.
GP: How has your relationship changed with your son since he became a father and you became a grandfather?
TD: I have even more respect for him. The way he conducts himself with his kid makes me so proud. And I was proud of him before Nicky was born. I love them together. Just the other day they were playing Steamroller on the bed. Nicky was jumping over Marc as he rolled around. It was fabulous. I’m so fortunate to live close.
GP: What are yours and Nicholas's favorite foods to eat together? Does he help at all with the cooking?
TD: For pizza, we crush the tomatoes and squeeze them and make faces. Then I give Nicky a piece of his own dough and he can make it any way he wants. It's important to spend time with the kids. Food doesn't have to be perfect. When I was growing up, I remember my father yelling at me not to be afraid to add the salt and pepper. I say that to my son and my grandson. Don't be afraid. Of cooking. Of anything.
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That's how I pass along the legacy.
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Sometimes, but they're not interested.
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Nah. We focus on other things.
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| I love Who the boss.I love Tony Danza is very handsome and funny.
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| I love being a young grandparent. I was a gramma at 43. It's great. I remember a lot of things my grandmother couldn't do with me, because she was so much older and wasn't able to anymore. Not that she didn't spend time with me, she did, she just couldn't chase after me as much. Even my mother wasn't able to do as much as I am able to. She was younger than my Gramma when she became the gramma. One thing I am forever greatful for is that my own children met my grandmother. Well, 2 of them did. The 3rd, I see a lot of my gramma in her. I wish my grandchildren could have met my mother. My girls think I spoil my granddaughters, but I am nothing compared to how she would be. Sorry this got so long.
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| My little 4 year old grandson and I make chocolate chip cookies whenever we get together. I love it and he loves to help with anything.
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| I have injoyed all of Tony Danza's Shows, Movies, and Talk show. You see he reminds me of my oldest Son Bill, now 45yr.
I became a GRANDMAMA at the age of 46. My oldest Grandson is 22 years old. Now I have 6 grandchildren. Ages 22, 17, 14, 9 and 4. three boys three girls. While they were growing up I was the baby sitter. Loved every minute of it. I was young so I could do everything with them.
My two older Sons, let me spoil and repremend them. My younger Son is defferent. But I try to spoil them and LOVE THEM MORE AND MORE..
BEING A GRANDPARENT IS THE GREATEST GIFT IN THE UNIVERSE.
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| Ken and I are relatively "young" grandparents. Our grandbaby Kaiya will be 2 next month. I had Josh when I was 19 and now I'm 49. My parents were restauranteurs and so we tend to see food prep as a bonding thing.
I'm absolutely going to teach Kai how to cook and I look forward to her getting familiar with meal preparation. I think meals bring people together and so it's important to do.
Kim, Portsmouth, NH
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